5 posts tagged “rnd”

long pre-labor day day.  went kayaking, then to a minor league baseball game, then attempted to go drinking, and now D&G is passed out on an aerobed on my living room floor.

kayaking happened b/c D&G wanted to do something water-related (she's about to leave to spend the semester in Russia working for a government agency) and CB's parents live about an hour away, on the river.  D&G and CB drove in one car, and EW and i followed in another.  on the way there, EW mentioned that she doesn't know CB very well, and only hears about him when i'm complaining about the last thing he's done that annoys me.  i, feeling bad, did say that he's a very good friend if he's not interested in you romantically, or isn't talking about his girl-crazy ways.

and it's true.  his parents own 3 kayaks, so he took EW to rent another one, and set them all up.  he took EW's shitty rented kayak so that she could use one of his parents', and then tried to pay for half of it.  he also let us leave early (D&G and i had to get back early for the game) and returned the other kayak and cleaned everything up for us.

he is nothing if not considerate, helpful, and patient when it comes to doing things for his friends.

but he is always going to be a linty ball of darkness, deep down inside.  RND [un-]officially broke things off w/him in july, and now they can't be in the same room together (she is probably the first girl to actually break up w/him and not the other way around).  he has told her that she is not welcome at events which his friends invite her to, b/c they were his friends first.  they apparently send each other emails so that he can make sure that they won't see each other.  this morning, while we were waiting for our pre-kayaking breakfast tacos, D&G happened to mention RND (she had been staying at RND's house this past week, while she was visiting people here] and CB stormed out of the place b/c he didn't want to even hear her name.

his insecurities are forcing D&G and others to feel like they are in a custody battle.  he says he's enforcing this ban b/c he doesn't want her to get upset at him, but it's actually b/c he can't stand being around someone who ended things w/him and who is currently dating someone else.

it's so immature.  and it's going to make our formerly-girls-only rock band party tomorrow (that EW inadvertently invited CB to) rather awkward tomorrow.

CB is girl-less at the moment.  RND and "the girl that got away," GTGA, have become friends and are hanging out more w/each other, making him the third wheel.  RND is also distancing herself from CB.

this is all good.  but honestly, CB will just find some other girl(s) to obsess over in the near future, and work himself into yet another drama-heavy, slightly awkward situation so that he can feel more alone and apart from the rest of the normal world.

CB is whining about it a little.  i think he wants me to pry some more so that he can unburden his soul but i'm not biting.  maybe later this week as a study break.  he should have to buy me dinner!

right now i am very angry at JCG.  and angry at myself.

i, along with some other soon-to-be graduates, went to an alumni reception at a fancy hotel downtown.  i ended up drinking a bit too much and, after driving myself and CC to dinner, proceeded to "pass out" in JCG's lap.  the extra glass of wine SSM bought me at the restaurant while we waited for our table just sped things up.  i spent some time on the floor of the men's bathroom, before JCG and SSM hauled me out (barefoot, b/c somehow i lost my shoes) and placed me in JCG's car.  when i protested, saying that my car was still at the restaurant, JCG snapped at me and told me that i should just call a cab in the morning to get it.  she drove me back to my house but we determined that the keys to my house were in the trunk of my car.  so, she then tried to drag me out of the car and make me lie on the porch b/c she didn't want me throwing up in her car.  i spent 5min arguing w/her b/c i didn't want to be left alone and i told her i wouldn't puke (i have a delayed puking mechanism).  finally, she drove back to the restaurant to get my keys, and on the way over, took $20 out of my purse to pay for my food (which i did not eat and everyone else at the table consumed), and called and told everyone that i was going to pay for dessert to make up for it.  at this point i was semi-comatose.  we got back to my house and i limped in and fell down on the floor in the living room.  i don't remember much else, except that i spent the hours from 230am to 11am throwing up.

when i checked my phone in the morning, JCG had texted me to say that i owed everyone else $40.  so at this point, i didn't have my shoes, i had no car, and i had no cash to pay for a cab to get back to the restaurant.  and i apparently was going to pay a grand total of $60 for a meal i did not consume.  how do 5 people end up w/a $40 bill for dessert?  by each ordering something and making it the most expensive item on the dessert menu?  after eating my pizza?  wtf.

D&G was nice enough to pick me up and drive me to my car.  and then i bought her lunch, but i volunteered.

now, i'm angry for a number of reasons.
***i'm angry at myself for drinking to excess.  drinking 5 glasses of wine on a plate and a half of hors d'oeuvres (sp?) is a really really dumb thing for a short asian female w/a low tolerance to do.
1) JCG gets really mean to me when she thinks i've had too much to drink.  she bitched me out for getting sloshed at my housewarming party, and after i, mortified, asked around to see if i had really been a hot mess, found out that i had been totally fine in everyone else's estimation, she did back down a bit.  nevermind that she loves "drunk [omphaloskepsist]" and this is the first time i've gotten sloppy in the entirety of our acquaintance.  (and she didn't even see me puke!!!)
2) last time she got sloppy and puked all over the place, i took care of her and never bitched her out or berated her or told you "i told you so."
3) i was going to offer to pay for her meal and maybe part of SSM's b/c of my drunken behavior, but where does she get off volunteering me to pay for everyone?  they each get $12 b/c i ruined their night?  to my best recollection, i did not do any of the following: make a scene, throw up on people, curse at people, or throw things at people.  no one at the restaurant ever asked me to leave.
4) WTF.  $40 on dessert???
5) someone told MB and i don't know who.

i called her today to ask her a question about graduation (tomorrow) but also to say that we needed to discuss what happened last night.  she was on her way to the airport to pick up her sister (the one w/the asshole [soon-to-be-ex-?] husband), so she said that it wasn't a good time to talk.  i guess we'll talk later this weekend.

no matter how outrageous i might've been (and i wasn't b/c no one told me to stop drinking or questioned my behavior until i started feeling ill at the restaurant...except for MB but that was back at the reception b/c he didn't go to dinner), i don't think JCG treated me very well.  maybe i don't remember enough, but when i talked to CC on gchat today, he didn't say that my behavior was awful or anything like that.  i think that for some strange reason JCG is harder on me than anyone else in terms of drinking and subsequent behavior.  and it's terribly unfair.  she is one of my closest friends here in [grad school city] and i would never have thought that anyone would've treated me the way that she did, last night.  i can't even imagine it.  especially since i have never been in that position w/her before (not like it's an excuse, but it's not like she can say that she is sick and tired of my behavior or something).  for someone who has been amazingly supportive when it comes to boy issues and my thesis drama of earlier this spring, i'm just baffled by her response last night.  i've been there for her.  why did she treat me like an annoyance and a burden last night?

some other things that anger me:
1) my mother and OS will not be coming to graduation tomorrow, b/c OS is supposed to graduate from her graduate program on sunday and is still working to finish everything up.  they are definitely not coming to my first (morning) graduation ceremony, but might be able to make it to the ceremony for my second graduate degree.  i know that OS is working as hard as she can and has severe obstacles to overcome, but i can't help but think that my mother has placed OS first for so long now.  yes, i'm a horrible person for saying this.  at least i'm not vocalizing it to anyone.
2) CB and RND are too cuddly for a couple that is no longer a couple.  it's ridiculous.  and he invited the other girl over to hang out again!  at least it wasn't my house this time.  it was BW and her fiance's house.  CB is just an emotionally manipulative jerk and i am getting more and more fed up w/him.
3) no matter how much i want it to happen, i am still not officially graduating this may.  i'm afraid that i will end up breaking into tears at some point tomorrow, during one or both of the ceremonies, as the frustration gets to be too much.

after a very nice (and $$$) sushi farewell meal for one of my friends, D&G took me to a party last night.  she's a dual degree graduate student, like me, and also went to undergraduate at the university we both currently study at, so she has friends from all over.

at this party, where i knew no one, i ended up getting more attention than i expected.  apparently the grad program that most of the attendees are part of is rather small, so as D&G's friend, i was "fresh meat."  yay.

according to D&G, i had a drunk ukrainian talking about me (in russian) most of the night.  he did tell me that i had beautiful eyes and i should have two bodyguards, one for each.  very strange.  when we were taking our leave, he told me that i was making a mistake and if i gave him my phone number, he could call me and tell me what kind of mistake i had made in the morning.  no thank you.

a drunk irishman asked me if i liked hanging out w/short irishmen.  i asked why, and the response was, sort of mumbly, "b/c i was hoping you would."

there was a tall and somewhat quiet undergrad who talked to me for a while.  he had cowboy boots (yay!) and is interested in going into the same sort of graduate work i am currently doing, but on an international basis.  so that was nice.

all in all, an entertaining night.  the host of the party is RND's ex.  everyone kept asking how i knew D&G...i thought it wise not to mention RND at all.

basic manners: shouldn't we all have them?

a friend of mine from high school, SA (snarky asian), visited me this weekend.  she has never been to [current state], so we basically did an eating tour of [grad school city] and i do believe she had a good time.  i, however, am probably worse for wear.  i finished my last final (8hr takehome) at 4pm on friday, and promptly began drinking at 430pm.  the only thing i ate all day was a pita w/some hummus, and then 3 onion rings and a handful of fried okra while drinking.

not such a good idea.  i didn't do any booting, but friday night was not a fun night.

especially after factoring in the amount of food and booze i ingested this weekend, i may need to fast for the rest of the week in order to fit into my graduation outfit (seersucker dress and suit jacket) for pseudo-graduation this saturday (i'm walking in the ceremonies for both of my graduate degrees, even tho i am not graduating until august, when i finish my thesis, fingers crossed).

the most annoying thing about my weekend, however, was CB's behavior.  a group of us went out to dinner on saturday night and came back to my house to lie on the floor and digest.  we ended up watching a movie, and 2/3 of the way in, i got a knock on my door.  turns out CB invited over one of his quasi-paramours w/o telling me.  she was only supposed to stop by so that she could get him and they could leave.  she ended up staying until the end of the movie, and was hanging out w/us a little more, but it was still awkward...adding the fact that CB's ex-girlfriend, RND (russian nesting dolls) was over, too, and that CB and RND drove to dinner/my house together.

CB sent me an email the next day apologizing (sort of) for inviting the other girl over w/o telling me about it.  we're acquaintances, so i'm not really fussed about it.  but his lame-ass excuse?  "i started saying something about it but then everyone else was talking and no one heard me, and i'm easily discouraged so i didn't say anything."

OMG.  grow some balls.

that's great, you invited a girl over while you were hanging out/cuddling w/RND, and it's not like RND could leave separately b/c you two drove to my house together.  you were rude in many different ways: 1) to me, for inviting someone over unannounced; 2) to the girl, b/c you put her in an awkward situation; and 3) to RND b/c you came w/her and you were going to leave?  apparently BW, the ever-so-tactful girl that she is, asked CB a few days ago, point-blank: "so are you and RND still fucking?"  CB's response: "i will neither confirm nor deny."

i like RND.  she's sweet.  and i don't know why she's still putting up w/CB's needy emotionally manipulative shit.  [well actually, i do.  RND's not totally innocent, b/c she fucked over her most recent ex, and D&G doesn't trust RND and CB together b/c they hid their relationship from her for 3mos.]  even SA picked up on it, in the short time she was here visiting me.

ugh.