47 posts tagged “friends”

but so far it's just the same old same old. i'm not sad, i'm not awesomely happy, either.

the boring run-down of my life:

on the man front:
so w/the recent deaths of the kennedy clan, i can't but think of Che. i wonder if he went to the funeral, or if he stayed in [fabulous city] while his kennedy attended. i've avoided the media coverage b/c i don't want to be reminded of him. how lame is that?

on the friend front:
IG had his island weekend earlier this month, and i went. it was a lot of fun, but things were noticeably calmer than usual, b/c everyone was in a relationship or paired off. there were 14 of us and HT and i were paired off, even tho i ended up sharing a room w/IG's ex-girlfriend. nothing crazy happened, w/the exception of a fight between BL and GL. but that's to be expected b/c he gets trashed and she usually takes offense to something he does or says; this time it was b/c she found his hidden stash of "snus".

they're nearing their first anniversary, and they recently bought a condo in [eastern city]. i was their first non-family guest in their new guest room! exciting.

JMS + wife had already bought a condo and were living together before they got married. FM just bought a condo, too, and his girlfriend is moving in.

i need to stop comparing myself to my friends. i need to stop thinking about how i am single and (although not unhappy about it) how i need to find a guy.

i'm headed to new orleans for labor day, w/TM. i'm assuming AA isn't coming b/c she didn't get back to me w/her travel itinerary. TM and i decided on new orleans before we found out that labor day weekend is "southern decadence" in NOLA, also known as "gay mardi gras". TM has promised not to abandon me for a random gay dude, so hopefully we'll do a lot of eating and drinking and perhaps i'll find a straight guy and kissyface at some point.

both EW and D&G were recently in town (but separately), and stayed w/me. apparently i've gotten more assertive since i moved to [northern city] (or so they tell me). i think it's b/c i'm less used to the day-to-day drama and therefore less inclined to take people's shit. the last time i was in [grad school city] CB and i got into a long, extended, late-night conversation about--what else--girls and of course it didn't go anywhere. oh, and TR is dating someone seriously enough to make it known on facebook, but she looks sort of dorky (later confirmed by D&G). i am totally hotter. but he's getting ass and i'm not. damn.

on the family front:
YS officially has a boyfriend. he's someone she met at nerd camp two summers ago, and they ended up at different colleges but still kept in touch. they've been together for a while, but she's only been comfortable w/the titles of boyfriend-girlfriend recently. OS has started dating in her internship city, and I AM OFFICIALLY THE SINGLEST SISTER FOR THE FIRST TIME IN A LONG TIME. so depressing.

on the work front:
i still have a crush on SFC. we went out for bar trivia tonight (and won, natch) and i really just wanted to sit in his lap and kissyface.

blah. i need another distraction.

there are other posts i've been meaning to write but i just keep putting them off. b/c i can b/c this is my blog and i'm allowed to be a slacker.

but not necessarily unhappy about either.

wedding was great! JMS and Mrs. JMS are perfect for each other, and it shows. we got personalized ketchup bottles as wedding favors!

i didn't boot, didn't do anything i'm ashamed of, and totally passed up totally-inappropriate-dancing/kissy-face/who-knows-what-else w/a tall, dark and could-be-handsome dude. he was just a bit too awkward. but he's really really smart. i think he was a physics major in college (graduated my year) and is now a risk manager for some big ol' bank in NYC. he cornered me to talk about the supreme court, nominee sonia sotomayor, the firemen case, and such for 15min during the hors d'oeuvres/cocktail hour and then followed me around on the dance floor afterwards. woo woo go me. he left the afterparty before the majority of us did, and came to talk to me at the bar but then cut himself off by saying "but [omphaloskepsist], you're already spoken for--" which i totally didn't understand b/c i was sharing a room w/HT but we're totally not together and everyone should know that! oh well. it wasn't like i was going to hit that up anyway.

what else did i do--hung out w/FM's new-ish girlfriend some more. i asked BL at some point why she's dating him [b/c she met him for the first time at BL's wedding where he was totally inappropriate in front of his ex-girlfriend] and this is her response: 1) b/c she doesn't know any better and 2) they're both halfies, so they have a lot in common. i do like her better than ex-girlfriend b/c she at least has personality. we caught them going into the women's restroom (for who knows what!) at the wedding afterparty. ha!

i also did my ex-roomie duty and took HT shopping after the wedding. he has just gotten back from a 6mo sabbatical in central america, and is going back to work in [summer city] for a few months before he leaves for australia. he's giving himself a total of a year off and is then probably going to move to [eastern city] to be closer to his family and the whole college crowd.

IG has also invited me for the island party so i'm trying to figure out if it's w/in my finances to fly up there in the middle of august. i'm already going on a 4-day trip to new orleans w/TM and perhaps AA for labor day weekend [a city we picked prior to learning that it will be the weekend of SOUTHERN DECADENCE which is, according to its website, the "gay mardi gras" so who knows what we will be in for] so i'm trying to minimize vacation days.

work is work (which kept me from posting about last weekend) and i spent 8hrs today hanging out w/SFC during a work training which got me going back and forth again on whether i think he's cute and whether i have a crush on him or not. i like him better clean-shaven [check] and also in non-work-attire [uncheck, and i really don't like the majority of his ties]. but i was getting seriously heated up sitting next to him and staring at his wrists. WTF? i caught him looking at me a couple of times for no real reason, while the speaker was in a totally different direction and we weren't discussing/brainstorming anything, and i'm assuming that's b/c i'm hot and sexy.

a whole lot of random nothingness, that is my life right now.

what i did determine over last weekend is that i miss the east coast. and my friends in [eastern city]. and [eastern city]. something about summer in new england always gets me...argh! what am i doing here???

need to make more friends here in [northern city] and get back to the gym. want to find some hot guys. would like some kissy-face.

sigh.

update: IG is off-limits, b/c (as i only seem to remember once i see him in person) it's too much work to try to get anything started w/him. also, he is in some strange love-triangle w/an ex and a new interest. at least i know he respects my editing prowess (i looked over his best man's speech for him).

other guy i thought perhaps i would have an opportunity w/is apparently thinking about buying a house (in the suburbs!) w/his serious girlfriend (when did this happen???).

i had a long conversation w/HT (we are sharing a hotel room) on the drive to the wedding location (i flew in a day early to hang out w/him, GL, BL, FM, IG and other assorted people) about love and marriage and relationships. we established the wide-ranging applicability of "[s]he's just not that into you" and talked about scores and scales (reminiscent of CB). also, the immaturity of certain friends (ahem, FM and everyone else who let him do it or egged him on) who put HT in a relationship on Facebook the night of JMS's bachelor party (i discovered it a few days ago by Facebook-stalking HT. suffice to say he's still upset about it).

i thought i'd perhaps get to hang out w/PG and FB who are also attending a wedding but in a neighboring state this weekend, but our two attempts so far have fallen flat.

trying to decide what to do w/my day. do work b/c goodness knows i have a shitton to do? go for a run w/the bride-to-be? go to the gym? attempt to find FM's girlfriend and get breakfast? go shopping? chill out by the pool and catch up on back issues of "lucky, the magazine about shopping"? i just have to be back mid-afternoon to shuttle groomsmen (and women, as BL is a groomslady) to the church. perhaps i should start getting myself psyched for the dinner, at which i may end up sitting at a table w/unfortunate drooling single losers (i was bumped from a table w/HT and some other college people by aforementioned "other guy"'s girlfriend (the ones who are thinking of buying a house together) who has decided to come). HT says that there are 7 single girls at the wedding--the bride-to-be didn't tell him how many single guys are going to be in attendance. i know of at least two that i will definitely not be doing anything w/b/c i knew them from college and they are still unfortunate.

all in all, an exhausting weekend w/little sleep. so far i've cleaned out HT's closet, consumed large amounts of alcohol, and have not really mingled w/guests of the wedding that i don't know--this does not bode well for my chances of finding a cute single guy to kissy-face w/. at least i don't have to wear spanx w/my dress tonight!

i talked to CB immediately after my conversation w/Che, and we talked about his girl issues and my guy issues and he told me that he had never tried dating me (whatever that means) b/c i was too intimidating. i know that i do intimidate some guys but he said it was, specifically, b/c i am so smart and good w/my hands. this is not the first time i have gotten the hands comment.

so that was nice.

i cried a lot this weekend. engaged in some retail therapy.

was watching DVRed episodes of In Plain Sight and something one of the characters (a recently widowed lady) said really struck me. she was talking about how every morning when she wakes up, she expects her husband to be there and it always takes her a second to remember that he isn't. and that second is always so painful and yet she doesn't want to forget about him.

obviously my situation w/Che is/was no where near that serious. also, it's a TV show w/paid writers and actors who are good at pretending--they're paid to do it.

but sometimes that's the way i feel.

i talked to EW about the whole breakup this weekend, inbetween giant gulping sobs and she tried to put things into perspective for me by talking about herself (it's one of her faults)...so she reminded me that at least i'm not over 30 and single, contemplating a move to another state where i know no one (she was recently laid off from her firm job and just interviewed for a federal clerkship where the judge apparently wants a 4yr commitment). this is true, but then again my grades in law school were no where near good enough to have even gotten that interview (and there's no guarantee that the judge will hire her--but she must decide to w/draw before the judge offers it to her b/c you just don't say no to a judge). and her dog is dying of cancer.

so relatively, i don't have it all that bad.

then again, all of my friends who are married and engaged have it better than me. i forgot to mention: two of my friends from college got engaged at the very end of last month (this was when i was apparently in my "it's okay! i'm fine!" phase). they went to a very very posh law school together (she transferred there after a year at another rather prestigious law school) but he started and therefore graduated a year before she did. he proposed 3 days into a trip they took to iceland (!!!) to celebrate her graduation. i'm not so disgusted by this b/c they have been dating since fall 2000, but she told me 2yrs ago that they were in no hurry to get married. and that irks me a little. it's my sad-sack responses kicking in. at least i'll get invited to the wedding, which promises to be a crazy affair (he's indian).

what else is happening? i had a dream that featured me cuddling w/SFC toward the end of last week. that was just weird.
 

another one of my friends from high school found me on facebook. and she's engaged. it's all the more shocking to me b/c my family moved away from [high school state] while i was in college, and i haven't seen said friend since 2002, when i lived w/her one summer and she took me to get my navel pierced. back then she had 7 piercings and was definitely positively single--she hadn't an official boyfriend yet, just casual hookups. and now she's getting married???

okay okay it was seven years ago. but still?!?!?

so many people are taking that big step, choosing to link themselves with another--if not always for the rest of their lives, at least w/that intention.

in light of this month's events, i honestly can't imagine that kind of commitment to anyone else right now...yet i want to be married. it's like i can't even think about the steps between.

and it makes me tear up. it's also just about my time of the month. that's my partial excuse.

i'm headed to JMS's wedding next month. hopefully i won't totally burst into tears at some inopportune moment.

in the last 3 weeks i have: driven to [northern city] twice (once w/D&G and once w/CB), flown to [summer city] to spend a week meeting my new  direct boss, and am now attempting to finish packing by 3pm so that my friends and i can load the uhaul and CB and i can drive to [northern city] so that i can make it to work on monday.

nevermind that i won't be able to get the keys to my new place (i only signed the lease on friday, via fax) until monday, that the gas won't be set up until monday, and that the electricity won't be turned on until tuesday.

or the fact that i'll have to get a morning report out to my direct boss by 630am on monday morning.

omg. awesome. thank goodness i have such awesome friends who have helped me pack this weekend. the only problem is, they haven't consumed all of the beer that i purchased for them to drink.

-had a phone interview for a permanent position at work (sadly, in another city in my fair state) that apparently went really well.
-got a can of vienna sausages from a fellow fellow.
-went running w/D&G and the silly doggie.
-learned how to play a nerdy boardgame.
-was convinced to go out and dance tonight and listen to rockabilly funk even tho i was feeling lame and i had a really good time.

on the agenda for the weekend:
-making lasagna for D&G and TP.
-going running again.
-CLEANING the house and washing the doggie.
-going drinking w/HMM.
-enjoying life in [grad school city], as long as it lasts.

my friend AA is having some issues right now. i guess we're always having issues, one way or another, but this particular set really annoys me.

she is in her second year of med school, which isn't the most relaxing or comforting environment, i admit. but she is sleeping w/an ex-boyfriend (he is a wine dude at a resort somewhat nearby) and she says that "he is being so nice" and my response is that he is being nice b/c it makes him feel good to make her happy, he gets sex out of it, and he doesn't have to do any relationship maintenance.

she is also apparently getting some ass from a young'un in her class--he's 22 or 23. they were friends the first year of med school, he was somewhat interested in her, but she didn't feel appropriate reciprocating. then they did sleep together at some point in the spring or early fall (i don't remember) and now he doesn't give her the time of day except to send her bootycall texts. she claims that their conversation after sex is great but SHE DOESN'T SEEM TO SEE THAT HE REFUSES TO TALK TO HER IN CLASS OR IN PASSING AND THAT THIS IS A PROBLEM. pardon the caps.

omg@!!!!!! wtf! i mean, yes, she has been through a lot (her father issues and her shithole extended family issues) but she also realizes that she can't use sex as a way to feel wanted and worthwhile. BUT SHE STILL CONTINUES TO DO SO. she slept w/2 or 3 guys her first year, maybe 4 (if this current asshole is one of them. i don't remember)...and 2 of those guys were in relationships.

ugh ugh ugh. i can only send supportive texts for so long. she has this tendency to send me texts that say: "i'm texting you instead of him. blah blah blah." how many times can i call this guy an asshole? my creative juices have apparently dried up.

turns out, the girl that IG wanted to ask out works on thursdays. oh noes.