14 posts tagged “d&g”

but so far it's just the same old same old. i'm not sad, i'm not awesomely happy, either.

the boring run-down of my life:

on the man front:
so w/the recent deaths of the kennedy clan, i can't but think of Che. i wonder if he went to the funeral, or if he stayed in [fabulous city] while his kennedy attended. i've avoided the media coverage b/c i don't want to be reminded of him. how lame is that?

on the friend front:
IG had his island weekend earlier this month, and i went. it was a lot of fun, but things were noticeably calmer than usual, b/c everyone was in a relationship or paired off. there were 14 of us and HT and i were paired off, even tho i ended up sharing a room w/IG's ex-girlfriend. nothing crazy happened, w/the exception of a fight between BL and GL. but that's to be expected b/c he gets trashed and she usually takes offense to something he does or says; this time it was b/c she found his hidden stash of "snus".

they're nearing their first anniversary, and they recently bought a condo in [eastern city]. i was their first non-family guest in their new guest room! exciting.

JMS + wife had already bought a condo and were living together before they got married. FM just bought a condo, too, and his girlfriend is moving in.

i need to stop comparing myself to my friends. i need to stop thinking about how i am single and (although not unhappy about it) how i need to find a guy.

i'm headed to new orleans for labor day, w/TM. i'm assuming AA isn't coming b/c she didn't get back to me w/her travel itinerary. TM and i decided on new orleans before we found out that labor day weekend is "southern decadence" in NOLA, also known as "gay mardi gras". TM has promised not to abandon me for a random gay dude, so hopefully we'll do a lot of eating and drinking and perhaps i'll find a straight guy and kissyface at some point.

both EW and D&G were recently in town (but separately), and stayed w/me. apparently i've gotten more assertive since i moved to [northern city] (or so they tell me). i think it's b/c i'm less used to the day-to-day drama and therefore less inclined to take people's shit. the last time i was in [grad school city] CB and i got into a long, extended, late-night conversation about--what else--girls and of course it didn't go anywhere. oh, and TR is dating someone seriously enough to make it known on facebook, but she looks sort of dorky (later confirmed by D&G). i am totally hotter. but he's getting ass and i'm not. damn.

on the family front:
YS officially has a boyfriend. he's someone she met at nerd camp two summers ago, and they ended up at different colleges but still kept in touch. they've been together for a while, but she's only been comfortable w/the titles of boyfriend-girlfriend recently. OS has started dating in her internship city, and I AM OFFICIALLY THE SINGLEST SISTER FOR THE FIRST TIME IN A LONG TIME. so depressing.

on the work front:
i still have a crush on SFC. we went out for bar trivia tonight (and won, natch) and i really just wanted to sit in his lap and kissyface.

blah. i need another distraction.

there are other posts i've been meaning to write but i just keep putting them off. b/c i can b/c this is my blog and i'm allowed to be a slacker.

in the last 3 weeks i have: driven to [northern city] twice (once w/D&G and once w/CB), flown to [summer city] to spend a week meeting my new  direct boss, and am now attempting to finish packing by 3pm so that my friends and i can load the uhaul and CB and i can drive to [northern city] so that i can make it to work on monday.

nevermind that i won't be able to get the keys to my new place (i only signed the lease on friday, via fax) until monday, that the gas won't be set up until monday, and that the electricity won't be turned on until tuesday.

or the fact that i'll have to get a morning report out to my direct boss by 630am on monday morning.

omg. awesome. thank goodness i have such awesome friends who have helped me pack this weekend. the only problem is, they haven't consumed all of the beer that i purchased for them to drink.

just got back from a very spur-of-the-moment-trip to [northern city]. got the job offer on friday at around 1pm, need to accept by monday (tomorrow), they want me to start next monday 3/2.

looked at a lot of places, cursed at the GPS and horrendous [northern city] drivers, and hopefully didn't annoy D&G too much (she came for moral support, navigation assistance, and to procrastinate on all of her grad school homework).

i'm 99% positive i will say yes tomorrow, but i will have a list of conditions: work blackberry/iphone, perhaps a stipend instead of relocation reimbursement, and pushing back the start date, or at least letting me start working remotely from the office here in [grad school city] so that i have more than a week to find a place, pack, and move.

i wasn't too happy w/what i saw in [northern city]. i found a place that i was really happy w/this afternoon, but now i'm second-guessing it. the bathroom isn't big enough, the closet space is way smaller than what i have here, the windows have been painted shut (1920s "character"), and the kitchen is tiny. i've been spoiled by my blissful duplex living for the past year and a half, and probably won't be able to find something in [northern city] w/all of the qualities i desire: price, location (from work), location (in terms of fun/funkiness), condition of the property, reasonable (or paid) bills, proximity to green space, etc.

sigh. well at least i will be an official adult soon. here's to real health insurance (yay going to the dentist), paid vacation and sick days, and having to buy more work pants that are not denim trousers.

-had a phone interview for a permanent position at work (sadly, in another city in my fair state) that apparently went really well.
-got a can of vienna sausages from a fellow fellow.
-went running w/D&G and the silly doggie.
-learned how to play a nerdy boardgame.
-was convinced to go out and dance tonight and listen to rockabilly funk even tho i was feeling lame and i had a really good time.

on the agenda for the weekend:
-making lasagna for D&G and TP.
-going running again.
-CLEANING the house and washing the doggie.
-going drinking w/HMM.
-enjoying life in [grad school city], as long as it lasts.

long pre-labor day day.  went kayaking, then to a minor league baseball game, then attempted to go drinking, and now D&G is passed out on an aerobed on my living room floor.

kayaking happened b/c D&G wanted to do something water-related (she's about to leave to spend the semester in Russia working for a government agency) and CB's parents live about an hour away, on the river.  D&G and CB drove in one car, and EW and i followed in another.  on the way there, EW mentioned that she doesn't know CB very well, and only hears about him when i'm complaining about the last thing he's done that annoys me.  i, feeling bad, did say that he's a very good friend if he's not interested in you romantically, or isn't talking about his girl-crazy ways.

and it's true.  his parents own 3 kayaks, so he took EW to rent another one, and set them all up.  he took EW's shitty rented kayak so that she could use one of his parents', and then tried to pay for half of it.  he also let us leave early (D&G and i had to get back early for the game) and returned the other kayak and cleaned everything up for us.

he is nothing if not considerate, helpful, and patient when it comes to doing things for his friends.

but he is always going to be a linty ball of darkness, deep down inside.  RND [un-]officially broke things off w/him in july, and now they can't be in the same room together (she is probably the first girl to actually break up w/him and not the other way around).  he has told her that she is not welcome at events which his friends invite her to, b/c they were his friends first.  they apparently send each other emails so that he can make sure that they won't see each other.  this morning, while we were waiting for our pre-kayaking breakfast tacos, D&G happened to mention RND (she had been staying at RND's house this past week, while she was visiting people here] and CB stormed out of the place b/c he didn't want to even hear her name.

his insecurities are forcing D&G and others to feel like they are in a custody battle.  he says he's enforcing this ban b/c he doesn't want her to get upset at him, but it's actually b/c he can't stand being around someone who ended things w/him and who is currently dating someone else.

it's so immature.  and it's going to make our formerly-girls-only rock band party tomorrow (that EW inadvertently invited CB to) rather awkward tomorrow.

D&G called me tonight, and among other things we talked about, turns out BNG called her to ask about me and MB.  we commiserated and she backed me up on the BNG is bad news bit.  yes she may be easy, but man oh man is she clingy.  and of course, MB is an acquired taste and he rubs MANY people the wrong way.  is an asshole to women he dates, etc.

so even the two friends agree that this is the hookup that should not happen.  take that and suck it, MB!

D&G is also having boy drama.  turns out this dude that she was interested in at her program, who we will call NANG (not a nice guy), has been hot-and-cold and finally asked her what she wanted.  trick question of course, and then he unloads that there is a girl waiting for him back in his home state and then things all go to shit.  even tho she's said quite clearly to him that she just wanted to enjoy the moment, NANG brings up that b/c he's older and more experienced, this is going to be harder on him than on her.  and now he's ignoring her and pointedly making plans w/other people in front of her (he's one of a few people who have cars at this language immersion program, so she's basically stuck on campus for their upcoming 3-day weekend).

i maintain that NANG is being an ass, but D&G insists that he is a nice guy.  i believe that nice guys can exist, but once they become romantically involved, they all turn into assholes.  the ones worth fighting/crying/mooning over, at least.  ugh.

i know that telling a friend that someone else is bad news is a delicate process...you don't want to sound bitchy or condescending or jealous, etc...

i noticed recently that MB had a prolonged facebook conversation w/a girl i met last february.  how did i find this out?  not by facebook-stalking MB [which he later accused me of, of course], but b/c i was checking out a album of pictures D&G had uploaded and that i and said girl was in.  let's just call her BNG (bad news girl).  i clicked over to her profile to see if she had graduated yet [she's an undergrad], and lo and behold, it says that MB and BNG became friends a few days ago.

MB had made a comment to me last week about looking for "bar ass" to get him through the summer, so i immediately became concerned.  she is BNG b/c she started sleeping w/a professor [MB got snippy w/me, and okay okay, he's actually a senior lecturer.  but he still teaches classes and grades students and has teaching assistants.] and got attached.  and is sort of a mess.

i emailed MB to tell him i hoped he wasn't hitting her up for sex b/c she was sort of bad news, and of course he got interested.  long story short, he thinks that i'm being a gossip and defaming this girl.  he thinks i am overreacting.

i don't know what else to do here.  i met this girl b/c she is friends w/D&G and we went drinking one night.  all this spring semester, i heard about her from D&G, about how she wasn't over this professor, how she was acting out, how she was having breakdowns, etc.  D&G was late/had to cancel engagements b/c she was busy dealing w/or comforting BNG.

i didn't tell MB to be bitchy, or to cockblock him in any way.  i just wanted him to be informed.  if she turned psycho on him, he'd surely ask me, later, why i didn't tell him.  he brought up the point that it was possible that they had already been seeing each other by the time i emailed him, then what?

if i were to respond [i'm not going to, b/c i sent him a last email telling him i didn't want to discuss this matter w/him, ever, again.  anything i'd say, b/c he is infinitely more witty than i, he'd take to be some defensive comment.] i would say, "i'd want you to know anyway."  i'm not slandering this girl.  i just think she's messed up in the relationship/sex department.  otherwise, she could be fabulous.  and she is really pretty, that i acknowledge fully.

i was just trying to save him some drama.  now i am annoyed b/c i can't sign onto gchat or facebook w/o feeling like he's going to be there, judgy mcjudging me.

argh drama.

well, not really, unless you count me complaining (but only for a short while) to EW and D&G about Che.

he called me and i got to yell at him for not calling me back over reunion weekend, and for not calling me back after i left him a voicemail (i was checking to see that he hadn't died).  Che has issues w/voicemail.  he (like D&G) hates listening to them.  but he says that i'm the exception...if he's going to listen to anyone's voicemail, it would be mine.  but this time, he didn't listen to either of them, and so he thought that i was mad at him for not coming to reunion.  i had to set him straight, and then yell at him.  it's always strange for me to do it b/c who am i to complain and be morally superior?  but i had good cause and he acknowledged that.  i was angry at him, not b/c of what we are or what we have been in the past, but b/c any person, any friend, should return a call that he asked for.  it's basic human decency.  i understand that work is work, but he didn't even call me back to tell me that he couldn't come.

he says that he is going to take my comments to heart and work on being a better person.

he's invited me out to [fabulous city] after the bar, b/c he's housesitting.  after the deadline for turning in my thesis (or for failing to turn in my thesis), i'm so there.  i may not oblige w/the daily blowjobs that he would apparently enjoy, however.

both EW and D&G called me for man-advice tonight, which i found pretty amusing.  not sure that i should've talked to each of them for so long, considering the sorry state of my thesis, but what else is a good friend to do?

D&G is in a foreign language immersion program this summer, and she made a phone call on the sly.  she has taken a pledge to only speak and write in a foreign language so she had to struggle to find the right words at times during our conversation.  she has been flirting for the past 2wks w/another student, and is finding it hard to spend any time w/him alone, or say the right things in said foreign language.  it's cute.

EW had a blast from the past this weekend, when someone she went to high school with (and college) called her for some legal advice.  she's rather long-winded (my voicemail actually cut her off b/c she went over the time limit) and so i got to hear the whole saga between her and this dude, starting from the 6th grade.

did i actually have much advice for either one of them?  no.  but i was a good ear.  i usually provide the entertaining stories and drama for my friends so it's nice to hear about other people's lives and realize that we all have to make sense of our different experiences and try to go along as best we can.

right now i am very angry at JCG.  and angry at myself.

i, along with some other soon-to-be graduates, went to an alumni reception at a fancy hotel downtown.  i ended up drinking a bit too much and, after driving myself and CC to dinner, proceeded to "pass out" in JCG's lap.  the extra glass of wine SSM bought me at the restaurant while we waited for our table just sped things up.  i spent some time on the floor of the men's bathroom, before JCG and SSM hauled me out (barefoot, b/c somehow i lost my shoes) and placed me in JCG's car.  when i protested, saying that my car was still at the restaurant, JCG snapped at me and told me that i should just call a cab in the morning to get it.  she drove me back to my house but we determined that the keys to my house were in the trunk of my car.  so, she then tried to drag me out of the car and make me lie on the porch b/c she didn't want me throwing up in her car.  i spent 5min arguing w/her b/c i didn't want to be left alone and i told her i wouldn't puke (i have a delayed puking mechanism).  finally, she drove back to the restaurant to get my keys, and on the way over, took $20 out of my purse to pay for my food (which i did not eat and everyone else at the table consumed), and called and told everyone that i was going to pay for dessert to make up for it.  at this point i was semi-comatose.  we got back to my house and i limped in and fell down on the floor in the living room.  i don't remember much else, except that i spent the hours from 230am to 11am throwing up.

when i checked my phone in the morning, JCG had texted me to say that i owed everyone else $40.  so at this point, i didn't have my shoes, i had no car, and i had no cash to pay for a cab to get back to the restaurant.  and i apparently was going to pay a grand total of $60 for a meal i did not consume.  how do 5 people end up w/a $40 bill for dessert?  by each ordering something and making it the most expensive item on the dessert menu?  after eating my pizza?  wtf.

D&G was nice enough to pick me up and drive me to my car.  and then i bought her lunch, but i volunteered.

now, i'm angry for a number of reasons.
***i'm angry at myself for drinking to excess.  drinking 5 glasses of wine on a plate and a half of hors d'oeuvres (sp?) is a really really dumb thing for a short asian female w/a low tolerance to do.
1) JCG gets really mean to me when she thinks i've had too much to drink.  she bitched me out for getting sloshed at my housewarming party, and after i, mortified, asked around to see if i had really been a hot mess, found out that i had been totally fine in everyone else's estimation, she did back down a bit.  nevermind that she loves "drunk [omphaloskepsist]" and this is the first time i've gotten sloppy in the entirety of our acquaintance.  (and she didn't even see me puke!!!)
2) last time she got sloppy and puked all over the place, i took care of her and never bitched her out or berated her or told you "i told you so."
3) i was going to offer to pay for her meal and maybe part of SSM's b/c of my drunken behavior, but where does she get off volunteering me to pay for everyone?  they each get $12 b/c i ruined their night?  to my best recollection, i did not do any of the following: make a scene, throw up on people, curse at people, or throw things at people.  no one at the restaurant ever asked me to leave.
4) WTF.  $40 on dessert???
5) someone told MB and i don't know who.

i called her today to ask her a question about graduation (tomorrow) but also to say that we needed to discuss what happened last night.  she was on her way to the airport to pick up her sister (the one w/the asshole [soon-to-be-ex-?] husband), so she said that it wasn't a good time to talk.  i guess we'll talk later this weekend.

no matter how outrageous i might've been (and i wasn't b/c no one told me to stop drinking or questioned my behavior until i started feeling ill at the restaurant...except for MB but that was back at the reception b/c he didn't go to dinner), i don't think JCG treated me very well.  maybe i don't remember enough, but when i talked to CC on gchat today, he didn't say that my behavior was awful or anything like that.  i think that for some strange reason JCG is harder on me than anyone else in terms of drinking and subsequent behavior.  and it's terribly unfair.  she is one of my closest friends here in [grad school city] and i would never have thought that anyone would've treated me the way that she did, last night.  i can't even imagine it.  especially since i have never been in that position w/her before (not like it's an excuse, but it's not like she can say that she is sick and tired of my behavior or something).  for someone who has been amazingly supportive when it comes to boy issues and my thesis drama of earlier this spring, i'm just baffled by her response last night.  i've been there for her.  why did she treat me like an annoyance and a burden last night?

some other things that anger me:
1) my mother and OS will not be coming to graduation tomorrow, b/c OS is supposed to graduate from her graduate program on sunday and is still working to finish everything up.  they are definitely not coming to my first (morning) graduation ceremony, but might be able to make it to the ceremony for my second graduate degree.  i know that OS is working as hard as she can and has severe obstacles to overcome, but i can't help but think that my mother has placed OS first for so long now.  yes, i'm a horrible person for saying this.  at least i'm not vocalizing it to anyone.
2) CB and RND are too cuddly for a couple that is no longer a couple.  it's ridiculous.  and he invited the other girl over to hang out again!  at least it wasn't my house this time.  it was BW and her fiance's house.  CB is just an emotionally manipulative jerk and i am getting more and more fed up w/him.
3) no matter how much i want it to happen, i am still not officially graduating this may.  i'm afraid that i will end up breaking into tears at some point tomorrow, during one or both of the ceremonies, as the frustration gets to be too much.