12 posts tagged “bl”

but so far it's just the same old same old. i'm not sad, i'm not awesomely happy, either.

the boring run-down of my life:

on the man front:
so w/the recent deaths of the kennedy clan, i can't but think of Che. i wonder if he went to the funeral, or if he stayed in [fabulous city] while his kennedy attended. i've avoided the media coverage b/c i don't want to be reminded of him. how lame is that?

on the friend front:
IG had his island weekend earlier this month, and i went. it was a lot of fun, but things were noticeably calmer than usual, b/c everyone was in a relationship or paired off. there were 14 of us and HT and i were paired off, even tho i ended up sharing a room w/IG's ex-girlfriend. nothing crazy happened, w/the exception of a fight between BL and GL. but that's to be expected b/c he gets trashed and she usually takes offense to something he does or says; this time it was b/c she found his hidden stash of "snus".

they're nearing their first anniversary, and they recently bought a condo in [eastern city]. i was their first non-family guest in their new guest room! exciting.

JMS + wife had already bought a condo and were living together before they got married. FM just bought a condo, too, and his girlfriend is moving in.

i need to stop comparing myself to my friends. i need to stop thinking about how i am single and (although not unhappy about it) how i need to find a guy.

i'm headed to new orleans for labor day, w/TM. i'm assuming AA isn't coming b/c she didn't get back to me w/her travel itinerary. TM and i decided on new orleans before we found out that labor day weekend is "southern decadence" in NOLA, also known as "gay mardi gras". TM has promised not to abandon me for a random gay dude, so hopefully we'll do a lot of eating and drinking and perhaps i'll find a straight guy and kissyface at some point.

both EW and D&G were recently in town (but separately), and stayed w/me. apparently i've gotten more assertive since i moved to [northern city] (or so they tell me). i think it's b/c i'm less used to the day-to-day drama and therefore less inclined to take people's shit. the last time i was in [grad school city] CB and i got into a long, extended, late-night conversation about--what else--girls and of course it didn't go anywhere. oh, and TR is dating someone seriously enough to make it known on facebook, but she looks sort of dorky (later confirmed by D&G). i am totally hotter. but he's getting ass and i'm not. damn.

on the family front:
YS officially has a boyfriend. he's someone she met at nerd camp two summers ago, and they ended up at different colleges but still kept in touch. they've been together for a while, but she's only been comfortable w/the titles of boyfriend-girlfriend recently. OS has started dating in her internship city, and I AM OFFICIALLY THE SINGLEST SISTER FOR THE FIRST TIME IN A LONG TIME. so depressing.

on the work front:
i still have a crush on SFC. we went out for bar trivia tonight (and won, natch) and i really just wanted to sit in his lap and kissyface.

blah. i need another distraction.

there are other posts i've been meaning to write but i just keep putting them off. b/c i can b/c this is my blog and i'm allowed to be a slacker.

but not necessarily unhappy about either.

wedding was great! JMS and Mrs. JMS are perfect for each other, and it shows. we got personalized ketchup bottles as wedding favors!

i didn't boot, didn't do anything i'm ashamed of, and totally passed up totally-inappropriate-dancing/kissy-face/who-knows-what-else w/a tall, dark and could-be-handsome dude. he was just a bit too awkward. but he's really really smart. i think he was a physics major in college (graduated my year) and is now a risk manager for some big ol' bank in NYC. he cornered me to talk about the supreme court, nominee sonia sotomayor, the firemen case, and such for 15min during the hors d'oeuvres/cocktail hour and then followed me around on the dance floor afterwards. woo woo go me. he left the afterparty before the majority of us did, and came to talk to me at the bar but then cut himself off by saying "but [omphaloskepsist], you're already spoken for--" which i totally didn't understand b/c i was sharing a room w/HT but we're totally not together and everyone should know that! oh well. it wasn't like i was going to hit that up anyway.

what else did i do--hung out w/FM's new-ish girlfriend some more. i asked BL at some point why she's dating him [b/c she met him for the first time at BL's wedding where he was totally inappropriate in front of his ex-girlfriend] and this is her response: 1) b/c she doesn't know any better and 2) they're both halfies, so they have a lot in common. i do like her better than ex-girlfriend b/c she at least has personality. we caught them going into the women's restroom (for who knows what!) at the wedding afterparty. ha!

i also did my ex-roomie duty and took HT shopping after the wedding. he has just gotten back from a 6mo sabbatical in central america, and is going back to work in [summer city] for a few months before he leaves for australia. he's giving himself a total of a year off and is then probably going to move to [eastern city] to be closer to his family and the whole college crowd.

IG has also invited me for the island party so i'm trying to figure out if it's w/in my finances to fly up there in the middle of august. i'm already going on a 4-day trip to new orleans w/TM and perhaps AA for labor day weekend [a city we picked prior to learning that it will be the weekend of SOUTHERN DECADENCE which is, according to its website, the "gay mardi gras" so who knows what we will be in for] so i'm trying to minimize vacation days.

work is work (which kept me from posting about last weekend) and i spent 8hrs today hanging out w/SFC during a work training which got me going back and forth again on whether i think he's cute and whether i have a crush on him or not. i like him better clean-shaven [check] and also in non-work-attire [uncheck, and i really don't like the majority of his ties]. but i was getting seriously heated up sitting next to him and staring at his wrists. WTF? i caught him looking at me a couple of times for no real reason, while the speaker was in a totally different direction and we weren't discussing/brainstorming anything, and i'm assuming that's b/c i'm hot and sexy.

a whole lot of random nothingness, that is my life right now.

what i did determine over last weekend is that i miss the east coast. and my friends in [eastern city]. and [eastern city]. something about summer in new england always gets me...argh! what am i doing here???

need to make more friends here in [northern city] and get back to the gym. want to find some hot guys. would like some kissy-face.

sigh.

update: IG is off-limits, b/c (as i only seem to remember once i see him in person) it's too much work to try to get anything started w/him. also, he is in some strange love-triangle w/an ex and a new interest. at least i know he respects my editing prowess (i looked over his best man's speech for him).

other guy i thought perhaps i would have an opportunity w/is apparently thinking about buying a house (in the suburbs!) w/his serious girlfriend (when did this happen???).

i had a long conversation w/HT (we are sharing a hotel room) on the drive to the wedding location (i flew in a day early to hang out w/him, GL, BL, FM, IG and other assorted people) about love and marriage and relationships. we established the wide-ranging applicability of "[s]he's just not that into you" and talked about scores and scales (reminiscent of CB). also, the immaturity of certain friends (ahem, FM and everyone else who let him do it or egged him on) who put HT in a relationship on Facebook the night of JMS's bachelor party (i discovered it a few days ago by Facebook-stalking HT. suffice to say he's still upset about it).

i thought i'd perhaps get to hang out w/PG and FB who are also attending a wedding but in a neighboring state this weekend, but our two attempts so far have fallen flat.

trying to decide what to do w/my day. do work b/c goodness knows i have a shitton to do? go for a run w/the bride-to-be? go to the gym? attempt to find FM's girlfriend and get breakfast? go shopping? chill out by the pool and catch up on back issues of "lucky, the magazine about shopping"? i just have to be back mid-afternoon to shuttle groomsmen (and women, as BL is a groomslady) to the church. perhaps i should start getting myself psyched for the dinner, at which i may end up sitting at a table w/unfortunate drooling single losers (i was bumped from a table w/HT and some other college people by aforementioned "other guy"'s girlfriend (the ones who are thinking of buying a house together) who has decided to come). HT says that there are 7 single girls at the wedding--the bride-to-be didn't tell him how many single guys are going to be in attendance. i know of at least two that i will definitely not be doing anything w/b/c i knew them from college and they are still unfortunate.

all in all, an exhausting weekend w/little sleep. so far i've cleaned out HT's closet, consumed large amounts of alcohol, and have not really mingled w/guests of the wedding that i don't know--this does not bode well for my chances of finding a cute single guy to kissy-face w/. at least i don't have to wear spanx w/my dress tonight!

BL and GL's wedding this weekend was beautiful.  BL was the happiest i've ever seen her, the dress was beautiful, the food was delicious, and VC is probably going to wear her hair in an updo for her own wedding (the hairstylists did her bridesmaids hair really well).  CCC brought her husband and her teeny weeny little boy (so cute!).  i rented a car for the first time ever, and didn't crash it.  AA and i went to lunch and caught up.  HT and i shared a room at the swank hotel right across the street from campus, which meant that we could booze it up all weekend and i could run upstairs from the reception to change into more comfortable shoes.  i'm totally glad that HT upgraded our rooms and then covered the additional cost.  he's a real winner.  he broke his ankle in july, and just got out of his cast, into one of those giant boot things.  he was on crutches all weekend, but managed to make a detachable beer/bottle/beverage holder for his crutches out of a bracket, some wingnuts, and duct tape.

but alas, FM returned to his old ways.  we hoped that the 5yrs he spent in a relationship would've reformed him for the better but apparently not.  his ex still came to the wedding as his date (they shared a room, but nothing happened), and he decided to make out w/another girl in front of her, right there on the dance floor.  granted, the ex *was* the one who broke up w/him, but it's still poor form.  he even had the nerve to mention to me that he wasn't going to go after the girl that he eventually kissed.  why?  b/c IG was dancing w/her, and FM said that he refused to compete w/IG for girls.  (i decided to humor FM and asked him what he meant.  FM's reply: i've done it twice before, and i've won both times.  [referring to me, and his most recent ex.]).

i, on the other hand, exercised good judgment this weekend.  there were two of GL's high school friends who were interested in me, but i decided not to shack up w/either one of them.

maybe i'm innately good and FM is innately sleazy.  wouldn't be that surprising!

today was also the first day of work at my fellowship.  LONG first day, especially after a weekend of alcohol.

i turned in my thesis today (and got a parking ticket...i will be submitting my expense report for $65 all told and my lost dignity, to my first reader).

BUT.  that's not the big news.

apparently FM and his girlfriend broke up!!!  she did it, and not him!  like 2wks ago.

they've been dating for almost 6yrs, and i thought they were getting married.  guess not.

he was my first "serious" boyfriend, and he broke my heart and trampled on it.

i just checked w/BL and she confirms that everyone in [eastern city] saw it coming.  apparently they did NYE separately, and they stopped showing up to other events together.

so strange.  they're supposedly still amicable (living together until the end of the month, when she moves out).  the ex-gf is still going to be at BL and GL's wedding.  and sharing a hotel room w/FM (who is a groomsman).

eeeeeenteresting.

Have you ever broken a bone? If not, what's the worst injury you've sustained?

[my first QOTD post!  procrastination!]

i've never broken a bone.  i have a penchant for spraining my ankles, however.  the worst in recent memory was summer 2005, when i was leaving CCC's wedding to head to [eastern city] for IG's annual island party.  at 5am in the morning as VC, HT, and i were leaving the guesthouse cottage at the resort to drive to the airport w/BL and GL, i slipped and did something nasty to my ankle, w/the added weight of all of my carry-on luggage.  i ended up missing my flight, and got wheeled around in a wheelchair for a while.  when i finally got to [eastern city], i went to the ER and spent 3hrs waiting to be seen/xrayed.  i've never been in an ER before and it was a very surreal experience, surrounded by a lot of crazy people.  turns out i had a bad sprain years ago b/c my xray showed a healed bone spur off of my ankle from a prior sprain.  weird, considering that i didn't remember ever being in so much pain from a sprain, but i guess the added stress of travel didn't help.  eventually, i got sent home w/an air cast and crutches!  i had to leave the crutches in [eastern city].  i think they got tossed b/c none of my friends were short enough to keep them around for shits and giggles.

i also learned that it costs $15,000 to treat a sprained ankle if you have just switched insurance carriers and haven't seen your primary care physician back in your home state yet, therefore meaning that you're effectively uninsured when you walk into the ER b/c there is no referral.  i think they got it all figured out eventually...i wonder if the resort ended up paying?

good times.

how long until you're supposed to know if the other person is "the one"?

BL + GL: met during their freshman year of college, fall 1999.  GL had a long-distance girlfriend that he broke up w/for about 2 days, after he kissed BL.  then he called his girlfriend back, guilt-stricken, and the girlfriend kept him on a very short leash for the next two, almost three years.  he wasn't allowed to talk to BL, had daily scheduled AIM chats and phone calls w/the girlfriend, etc.  BL + GL finally started dating senior year, fall 2002.  after graduation, they moved in together and got engaged, christmas 2007.  wedding, september 2008.  JD + probable MBA.

VC + BD: met during his 2L year of law school, her 1L year of law school, fall 2005.  stayed friends for a while and finally hooked up for the first time, new year's 2006-2007.  he broke up w/the girl he was dating sometime later that month, and the two of them officially started dating at the end of january 2007.  he moved in w/her and me in [summer city], while he studied for the bar, and they got engaged, august 2007.  wedding, september 2008.  JD + JD.

AO + his girlfriend: met each other on match.com, january 2008.  he's a strange one, but somehow was able to juggle 3 women at once, but he let the other two go soon after meeting said girl.  he went on a 2wk trip to thailand in february, started dating girl officially in early march.  they moved in together may 2008.  masters + ?

BM + PCG: went on their first date, october 2006.  apparently they were the only 2 single people in their department and so it was natural that they would date.  moved in together july 2007, got engaged july 2007, wedding july 2008. masters + expected PhD + masters + expected PhD.

my friend Chocolate Chip Cookie (CCC) + her husband: met while she was on break, either thanksgiving or winter break, our senior year of college, 2002.  i honestly don't remember exactly when they got engaged, but i dragged my heels and got measured for my bridesmaid's dress february 2005, which means she probably asked me to be her bridesmaid in october or november 2004.  wedding, july 2005.  masters + expected PhD + probable masters.

a friend from law school + her husband: started HS together, and then she moved out of state and graduated somewhere else.  didn't keep in touch during college, but they ended up at a wedding of a mutual friend sometime during 2L summer, 2006.  started dating long distance fall 2006, he moved to [grad school city], she graduated and they moved in together in yet another state (for her new job) and they got engaged fall 2007.  wedding june 2008, they now live in the state they started out in, as he is going to med school in the fall.  i would've been at the wedding except that it was the same weekend as the college reunion.  JD  + projected MD.

so, apart from BL + GL, it's been less than a year for all of these happy couples from first date to some sort of serious decision.  maybe all of these relationships won't last.  but still, will things really be that fast?  maybe it's a function of how driven my group of friends are.  hm.  every relationship involves at least 2 graduate degrees, w/the exception of GL (he is planning on going to business school in the next two years) and AO's girlfriend.

***EDIT: i got CCC's dates wrong.  corrected above.

BL is back in town, and we got together w/EW and another one of my friends for dinner and an outdoor concert tonight.  she thinks that IG was just waiting for me to make a move all last weekend.  hm.  he's always been very passive about making the first move on girls, but honestly?  i was all cozy w/him on a twin XL for goodness sakes.  and i wasn't wearing any underwear!  [well he wouldn't have known that.]  suffice to say, it wouldn't have taken much.

she also thinks i should come to [eastern city] for her and GL's annual fourth of july party and hang out w/IG, who is a grad student in [eastern city].  i told her i can't afford to, both in terms of time and money.  she also suggested that when IG plans his annual island party, when he asks me (if!  he does) i should tell him i can't and see what happens.  she thinks he might offer to buy my ticket.  we'll see.  i'm just afraid of doing anything b/c he may not be interested and that would be so embarrassing and awkward...

reunion was weird.  good in some ways, sad in others.

i got to see a lot of my good friends from college, and lots of classmates that i haven't seen since 2003.  it was really nice to walk through campus again, too.

some of the guys who had crushes on me in college still do.

Che didn't show up after all.  he got called into work in [depressing city] and told me to call him to discuss whether it was worth it for him to fly up to see me.  so i did.  and he didn't call back.  figures.

the most action i let myself have all weekend was some quality cuddle time with Island Guy (IG), who i had a crush on sophomore year.  well, simultaneous crushes on him and FM, his roommate.  a bit of drama (as i ended up dating FM).  i'll see him (and the college campus) again in september, for BL and GL's wedding.

i feel old.

BL happened to be in town, last-minute, this weekend.  i hadn't seen her since last summer, and her hair is entirely a different color these days.  which is lighter than it had been...her mother thinks that it's too dark to get married w/ (?) and so BL has been gradually lightening it.  she's been pseudo-blonde for a few years now, so it's strange to see her hair color close to her eyebrow shade.  but it's not bad.

she stayed overnight w/me so we had a little time to talk and catch up.  she has always been, and always will be, the soccer mom of our college group of friends.  she is good at managing people and things, even tho she doesn't like doing it...but somehow she always gets herself into those situations.  she and GL didn't have a very romantic engagement.  sounded very practical.  her ring is nice and big, tho.

she's worried about VC's wedding.  so am i.  she wants to know why i'm still talking to Che.  so do i.

it's so weird how through the years, some things never change.